Hey, People Pleasers! 👋🏼
I’m Tiff Pham (she/they) and I help tenderhearted humans like you build boundaries and communicate better so you can have healthier relationships with others and, more importantly, with yourself.
I used to love being the person everyone came to for help with their problems because it felt good to help them. Until I realized how draining it could be, finding myself fixating on their problems instead of my own long-ass to-do list. Or, I would help them not because I enjoyed it, but because I needed them to feel better so I could feel better too (hi, codependency!). I thought I knew what boundaries were, but in reality, I was unconsciously trying to control the other person. When I learned what boundaries actually are and how to kindly communicate them, I learned how to protect myself from absorbing the overwhelming energy of others while still helping them and achieving balance in my life.
I still have draining interactions from time to time (because no one is fully healed), but not nearly as often now. I can also confidently say I know and love who I am more today than ever before. My relationships are more balanced and reciprocal. I can better regulate my own emotions and nervous system without needing to control or worry about what’s going on for the other person. I’m in the driver’s seat of my life, and I’m here to help you take the wheel in yours.
If you’re someone who strives for perfection or tends to overachieve, you might have already tried:
Reading Self-Help Books: While insightful, they might not have provided the personalized guidance and accountability needed.
Therapy: Though beneficial, it might not have provided tangible tools or an actionable plan.
Trying to Change Others: Attempting to control or fix others instead of focusing on your own growth and boundaries.
Avoiding Conflict: Steering clear of disagreements in an attempt to keep the peace, leading to unresolved issues piling up.
Practicing Mindfulness or Meditation: These are great for managing stress but might not have addressed the deeper relationship dynamics.
Maybe you’ve already tried:
What’s different about working with me:
Practicing self-love and healthy communication is easier said than done. By working together in a safe and compassionate environment, I can help you:
Identify and Communicate Boundaries: Learn what your boundaries are and how to express them effectively.
Navigate Strong Emotions: Develop skills to manage and understand your emotions.
Healthy Coping Mechanisms: Discover and implement effective ways to cope with stress and anxiety.
Boost Self-Love and Confidence: Increase your self-esteem and appreciation for who you are.
Empowerment: Gain the tools to become your own coach over time, taking control of your life and relationships.
There’s no shame or blame here. You’re perfect as you are, AND there’s room to evolve. You don’t have to take on everyone’s everything anymore!
I’m queer and first-generation Vietnamese-American.
I was born in the Pacific Northwest and now reside on unceded Ohlone land.
I’m a Capricorn sun, Taurus rising, and Scorpio moon.
I’m a Generator in Human Design and INFP Myers–Briggs.
I’m a certified Professional Co-Active Coach and Associate Certified Coach, credentialed by Co-Active Training Institute and the International Coach Federation respectively
I’m currently pursuing my Master’s in Intuition Medicine® at the Academy of Intuition Medicine®.
Prior to coaching, I worked in marketing and communications at startups for over a decade.